December 2007


Girlfriend Pillow

Lay your head on your “girlfriend’s” lap. Soft plush pillow comes complete with red miniskirt. Great for bachelor parties or actually quite functional for reading in bed. Polyester velvet with plump polyfill. 23″ x 13″ x 13″


Boyfriend Pillow

Feeling lonely? Here’s the solution for a gal whose boyfriend or husband is away on a trip! A pillow with an arm and soft, fleecy hand wraps around you while you sleep or relax. No more lonely nights when you snuggle with the “boyfriend pillow”! It makes a humorous gift for single pals. The polyester pillow is filled with foam and “dressed” in a cotton shirt. Hand washable. Imported. 20″ long.

These Japanese inventions were not created as a joke, but to assuage loneliness or at least the craving for physical comfort.


A brief glance at the literature suggests that there are 5 different types of loneliness with generous amounts of overlap.

  • State loneliness. This type of loneliness is found among people who have lost an important attachment. It can be short lived like a day long separation or lengthy as in the break-up of a love affair. Most people experiencing this type of loneliness can be proactive and take measures to correct the situation or ameliorate it by finding a way “to amuse” themselves until the feeling dissipates.
  • Trait loneliness. Those experiencing this type of loneliness are often people who have difficulty forming attachments or creating social networks for themselves. they badly wish to have an important person in their life but are often too frightened to let down their defenses.
  • Emotional loneliness. This occurs, like state loneliness, due to the loss of an attachment figure such as a husband, mother or friend.
  • Social loneliness. this occurs due to the lack of a viable social network
  • Existential loneliness. This is the recognition that we are all alone in facing our selves and death. This spiritual phenomenon can be the seed of dread and/or a spiritual awakening.

By Robin Lloyd, Special to LiveScience

posted: 31 March 2006 10:14 am EST

It’s true—you might die of loneliness, but not until you’re older.

In a new University of Chicago study of men and women 50 to 68 years old, those who scored highest on measures of loneliness also had higher blood pressure. And high blood pressure is a major risk factor for heart disease, the number one killer in many industrialized nations and number two the United States.

Lonely people have blood pressure readings as much as 30 points higher than non-lonely people, said the study leaders Louise Hawkley and Christopher Masi. Blood pressure differences between lonely and non-lonely people were smallest at age 50 and greatest among the oldest people tested.

Richard Suzman of the National Institute on Aging, which funded this research, said he was “surprised by the magnitude of the relationship between loneliness and hypertension in this well-controlled, cross-sectional study.”

Nothing worse

The researchers separated loneliness out from depression, age, race, gender, weight, alcohol consumption, smoking, blood pressure medications, hostility, stress, social support and other factors.

Also, loneliness does eat at you. The morbid health effect of loneliness accumulates gradually and faster as you get older, the study found. Loneliness was worse for blood pressure than any other psychological or social factor the researchers studied.

Weight loss and physical exercise reduce blood pressure by the same amount that loneliness increases it. Hawkley said this finding especially surprised her.

“It’s comparable to the effects you see for the health benefits that are so often advocated such as exercise [to] keep your blood pressure under control,” Hawkley told LiveScience.

Who is lonely

About one in five Americans is lonely, a gnawing emotional state that is a patchwork of feeling unhappy, stressed out, friendless and hostile.

The main psychological difference between lonely and non-lonely people is that the former perceive stressful circumstances as threatening rather than challenging and cope passively and withdraw from stress rather than trying to solve the problem, said study co-author John T. Cacioppo.

Lonely people who are middle-aged and older tend to also have problems with alcoholism, depression, weak immune system responses to illness, impaired sleep and suicide.

Some psychologists think that associations between loneliness and health or physiology are just part of a generic stress response, but this new research suggests loneliness has a unique impact.

More to come

Social trends in the United States suggest a recipe for greater loneliness and thus higher blood pressure and risk of heart disease. The population is aging and more people move around and live alone than ever, contributing to greater separation from caring friends and family.

Data for the study, announced this week and published in the journal Psychology and Aging, were collected in 2001. Future research could demonstrate if loneliness causes higher blood pressure, or is simply associated with it.

Meanwhile, it’s probably a good idea to nurture those special friendships, marry, or at least get a decent roommate if you want to keep your blood pressure down and beat down your odds of getting heart disease.

I imagine that the Japanese in this video is as bad as the English and the dancing.

This is for those who like fluff, incoherence and faux naivete.

But it’s got a good beat and you can dance to it.


This photograph was found on It nicely mirrors Alice Neel’s painting Loneliness but it takes the subject, the red chair out of a barren, almost wistful domestic setting and puts it into a decimated industrial environment that looks like a blasted cathedral. Personal sorrow is transformed into post-apocalyptic nightmare; yet the subject matter stays the same. 


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